We all know how women of these days have been blamed for being too “money conscious”.
The thing is, it’s not about requesting for money, it is about how you go about it.
It is not wrong for a man to spend on his girlfriend or wife but sometimes it is all about “hand go, hand come”. Giving a man the reassurance that he’s not flushing his money down the drain wouldn’t make him bother spending on you.
The onus therefore lies on a woman to also come up with the best way to get whatever she needs without being added to the line of women considered to be gold diggers. The only time a man might call you a gold digger is when you prove to him you love his money more than himself, aside that, he will never see you as a gold digger even if he spends all his life savings on you. It’s all about how you go about it.
Women who really know how to get money from their men, don’t even ask for it before it’s provided. Please don’t follow that advice given by those twinnies who posted a video on social media saying how a man should spend on his woman…nope!
If you really want to know how to easily get your man to spend on you, kindly come with us let’s show you some simple ways to get it unconsciously.
1. Be Faithful
No man will want to know that the woman he spends on also cheats and actually spends his money on another man. Being faithful gives a man the confidence to spend more on you because he has the assurance you love him and not his money and so spending on you doesn’t really affect him and he also knows giving to you will definitely come back to him and that’s love.
Even if you should cheat on him for once and he finds out and doesn’t break up with you, then you should know he will have doubts spending on you. You can’t be a cheating woman, playing many men and expect a man to still spend on you when he finds out.
2. Be Loyal
Every one of us expects the person closest to us to be loyal. Each one of us definitely loves someone who supports and is ready to do anything to be with us. That’s human nature. If you deny your man in front of your friends, I don’t think he will be eager to spend on you or give you money when he finds out. Let him have that confidence in you and he wouldn’t bother spending more on you.
3. Wake Him Up With A Fellatio
Yes! Most people in relationships have sex, but being creative with it is what makes the difference. Most men love fellatio and will always demand it during foreplay but what they love most is surprising them with it.
Try sucking him when he’s asleep and let him wake up to it and it shouldn’t be once, it should be something you should do regularly and you will be surprised what he will buy for you without you asking. Not only will he spend on you, you will always be on his mind and that’s the secret. When you’re always on his mind, it makes him want to buy things for you at the slightest opportunity. That’s the point.
4. Walk Around The House Half Naked
If you’re living with him in an apartment, always learn ways and means to keep his testosterone high and when a man’s testosterone is high, his happy hormones are activated and whatever you demand comes easy.
One of the ways of easily getting him to give you money is by walking around the house half naked and this includes even when you’re in the kitchen cooking. You can decide to do your house chores in just a sexy lingerie, this will spike his emotions and will make him easily hand over what he has for you.
NB: Same cannot be said if you live in a compound house though.
5. Give Him Sex Whenever He Needs It
It is an undeniable fact that men love sex and this is why, a woman has a menstrual cycle, men don’t. A woman sheds her eggs in a month, men on the other hand have active “eggs” from the day they are conceived till they die. This sperms are active all year round and so sex is really something men love.
Now sex comes with a lot of advantages and one of them is, it increases a man’s happiness and when a man is happy, he easily gives. Aside that, it also bonds the two of you together the more and so when you demand something, he surely knows you deserve it. But not when you don’t want him to touch you but you want to have all his money or expect him to spend all he has on you then obviously you will be seen as a gold digger and it will be difficult for him to spend on you. Even if you’re married to him and you deprive him of sex, getting money from him becomes a big issue, you can ask your mama about that.
6. Don’t Be Too Demanding
It is not wrong to request for money from your husband or boyfriend, he knows it’s his responsibility but when it becomes the order of the day, then it’s a problem.
At the least opportunity, you are asking him to buy this or that, not only will he see you as a gold digger, he will also think you don’t have a future for him, you just want to drain his money. Every man wants a woman who plans the future with him and it doesn’t matter what he says, we all love it when a woman actually controls our spending.
In fact, men love to spend on their women but when a man even spends lavishly on his woman and the woman sits him down to advice him to use the money to gain more, such a woman always has a special place in the heart of the man. Unlike a woman who keeps making him spend unnecessarily. Even if he has more than enough, the day he has an encounter with a woman who teaches him how to save, he’s definitely going to drop you.
However, if you demand money when it’s needed, especially when he knows you don’t even ask for it more often, you wouldn’t have any problem getting more than you even bargained for.
NB: Same cannot be said for stingy men though. When he’s stingy he’s stingy and you should know stinginess is a disease.
7. Help Him Pay Some Of The Bills
You don’t live with him but you are always at his place, you’re both working, what really stops you from paying some of his bills? When you do it, apart from him appreciating you the more, he’s likely to pay you back in threefold when he has money.
When you go to the restaurant on a date, what stops you from paying the bill? These little gestures actually get to a man and so when he’s spending on you, he has the confidence he’s not wasting his money because you’re worth it.
8. Earn Money Yourself (Get paid, not played)
To be able to handle point 7 above, you need to be financially stable yourself. These days, men love women who are hardworking, no man wants a lazy woman who sits her ass home and does nothing. Same way, a woman wouldn’t want a man who is lazy and does nothing.
When you’re working and making your own money, men respect you the more and coupled with you not asking him for money in point 6 will make him even spend more on you because he might feel intimidated to think you’re making enough and so what he’s even giving you is not enough.
As a woman, if you’re financially stable and do not demand too much money from your man and handle your own bills, you get maximum respect from your man and he’s forced to pay more because he knows you don’t need him to handle your bills, because you don’t really rely on him.
9. Buy Him Expensive Gifts Too
Talking about buying him gifts, we are not talking about the regular routine of buying underwear and handkerchiefs, nope!
What really stops you as a woman from also buying him a phone or even an expensive perfume? Buying him expensive gifts actually helps put your bid high. This is because when it is his time to also buy you something, he’s forced to buy you more because we men have an ego where we don’t want to be second in anything.
If you keep buying him handkerchiefs as gifts, he will also keep buying you cheap bras. But suppose you surprise him with an expensive phone, if he’s rich, he would be forced to buy you a car, because as a man we love to always be one step ahead.
10. Respect Yourself
Everything you’ve read so far boils down to this point. Respecting yourself will help you achieve it easily. You can’t come cheap and expect to be treated expensive, it doesn’t work that way. For instance, if a man invites you on a date, you don’t come with your whole family and friends and expect him to buy food for all of them, that’s uncouth and uncultured. You’re clearly revealing how hungry your family and friends are and if you’re thinking you’re actually doing it to drain him, then I’m sorry, you’re rather disgracing yourself. Girls who actually do that need to go back to school to learn courtesy for boys and girls.
Even if he’s able to afford such meal for all of you, all he will want from you is sex and that’s it, nothing special, when he gets it, to him, it’s a done deal. It is wise to come alone and attempt to even pay the bill, a gentleman will feel embarrassed when you try doing that and will definitely offer to pay and beside that, you will earn his respect because he will realize you don’t come cheap and to be able to have a woman like you, he will need to pay more. It’s as simple as that.